Are we destined to love the people we love, and be with the people we are with?
I've watched the movie "500 days of summer" really got me thinking. basically the guy falls in love solely because of circumstance. he just happened to be in the right place at the right time. so if everyone is supposed to have a soul mate,
is it fate or just a coincidence or by chance that many people fall in love with people that may have grown up in the same city/town? like what are the odds of your soul mate living in the same city or even country, out of the billions of people in this world? for all i know my soul mate could be in Philippines. Does that mean i'm falling in love with someone that isn't my soul mate? Can u fall in love more than once or do u just think it's love? Can you force yourself to fall in love if you are convinced he/she is the best you've ever known? is it just a coincidence or chance that people of the same race or ethnicity tend to get married or be with someone you loved? that actors and actresses get married?
I think that most of the people who claimed that they are 'in love' aren't really in love at all. its just "LUST" or maybe "INFATUATION". That's why break-ups rates are so high. if people were really finding their soul mates, there wouldn't be break-up. and back in the day when there really wasn't much you know...people weren't finding soul mates back then. it just wasn't socially acceptable to split up.
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You have posted very difficult questions, the very essence of them brings back to the purpose and meaning of life. Ultimately, you may ask, "Were we created out of chance or was there a Being at work? Because there is such a thing as destiny, then there has to be Someone who controls everything. But if everything is by chance, then the universe is no more than an accident. And we humans just try to make sense of everything. I think that finding someone who complements you is both a product of chance and our own self determination. But since we are finite, our lifetime and the hours of the day, we can't exactly devout our time finding that significant other. For some, the search took only a while, for others, for a while, and for many others, their whole lifetime and found no one. That's because we have other roles to play and we think not just of ourselves but also others dear to us. Along the road in our search for that perfect someone, we decide to give it a try with persons we meet along the way - because that is the only way to know if he or she is the one meant for us. And when the relationship doesn't work, we let go - and that's the only time we know he or she is not ours to keep. But then only at our deathbed will we know if we have ever found that someone saved for us. But another question remains, what if someone was really there, and we just didn't have the time, or the means to find him/her? And so we settle for second best, in our desperation. ----- Hot Espresso.
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